The Christmas season is a little
different with a one-year old still living with his foster family across the
ocean. This year has already (hopefully)
had a list of “lasts.” The last time we
set up the tree with the ornament s somewhat evenly spaced, probably the last
time without some fresh home-made glittery, popsicle-stick kind of ornaments,
the last time we can set out certain decorations within arm’s reach, the last
time for toyless Christmases, the last time we don’t have to worry about
finding a babysitter for a Christmas party and probably the last time for a
while that we will sleep in on Christmas day.
Don’t get me wrong, my husband and
I are enjoying this season, but with a heavier heart than usual; we are missing
a vital person in our celebrations. We
are sending our little guy a Christmas box in care of his foster family. I’ll include
a blanket, some clothes and maybe a toy.
Each set of grandparents is sending us a gift for his room. This year,
he doesn’t know who we are—let alone probably get the concept of gifts but we
want to be able to tell him that his whole family planned for him for a long
time. The band Third Day has a song that
strikes a chord with us…they sing about missing a child who was still in China
for Christmas “It is Christmastime again but you’re not home, your family is
here but you are somewhere else alone”…it is a bittersweet song. That song
brings tears to my eyes each time I hear it, yet I know there will be a day he
will be home with us.
What has been fun this year is I
have purchased several snowmen families—each family has a dad, mom and a
kiddo. We have been purchasing ornaments
and decorations that have a family focus vs. a couple focus. This year, when we take our traditional
picture in front of the Christmas tree we will be holding a picture of our
little guy.
I would love to hear how you’ve
celebrated Christmas with a kiddo not yet home.
I think it is so wonderful that you have found ways to enjoy your "lasts" although I know you would rather have them be "firsts" this year.
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