The Christmas season is a little different with a one-year old still living with his foster family across the ocean. This year has already (hopefully) had a list of “lasts.” The last time we set up the tree with the ornament s somewhat evenly spaced, probably the last time without some fresh home-made glittery, popsicle-stick kind of ornaments, the last time we can set out certain decorations within arm’s reach, the last time for toyless Christmases, the last time we don’t have to worry about finding a babysitter for a Christmas party and probably the last time for a while that we will sleep in on Christmas day.
Don’t get me wrong, my husband and I are enjoying this season, but with a heavier heart than usual; we are missing a vital person in our celebrations. We are sending our little guy a Christmas box in care of his foster family. I’ll include a blanket, some clothes and maybe a toy. Each set of grandparents is sending us a gift for his room. This year, he doesn’t know who we are—let alone probably get the concept of gifts but we want to be able to tell him that his whole family planned for him for a long time. The band Third Day has a song that strikes a chord with us…they sing about missing a child who was still in China for Christmas “It is Christmastime again but you’re not home, your family is here but you are somewhere else alone”…it is a bittersweet song. That song brings tears to my eyes each time I hear it, yet I know there will be a day he will be home with us.
What has been fun this year is I have purchased several snowmen families—each family has a dad, mom and a kiddo. We have been purchasing ornaments and decorations that have a family focus vs. a couple focus. This year, when we take our traditional picture in front of the Christmas tree we will be holding a picture of our little guy.
I would love to hear how you’ve celebrated Christmas with a kiddo not yet home.